1) Reframe: from Outcome to Process
Fixed mindset hunts for proof of worth. Growth mindset hunts for useful feedback. The lever is not self‑esteem but process‑esteem: “Did I run the process I promised myself?” Honor the reps and the results will lag in.
- Language swap: Replace “I’m bad at this” with “I haven’t trained this yet.”
- Metrics swap: Track reps, recovery, and rate of learning, not just wins.
- Identity swap: From knower to learner: curiosity is your core competence.
2) Stress is Information, Not Identity
Challenge arousal often masquerades as danger. Use a 20‑second Physio Reset before high‑stakes tasks:
- Exhale‑hold: Long exhale, hold 2–4s. Signals safety.
- Eyes: Soften peripheral vision; reduces threat focus.
- Name: Label the sensation (e.g., “fast heart, warm hands”). Naming unblends you from it.
3) Praise the Strategy, not the Person
Following Dweck’s research, praise what is controllable—effort and strategy. Ask: “What specifically did you do that worked, and how will you iterate it?”
4) The Tiny‑Loop Architecture
Big goals die in vague loops. Build micro‑loops you can finish daily:
- Define a unit: one outbound email, one sketch, one paragraph.
- Time‑box: 15–25 minutes. Ship when the box ends.
- Reflect: two bullets: keep / change.
“The mind takes the shape of what it pays attention to.” — Contemplative traditions & neuroplasticity agree.
5) Rituals that Rewire
Mindset lives in the body. Pair cognition with ritual so it sticks:
- Morning intent: 60‑second breath + one sentence: “Today I practice being a learner.”
- Friction audit: remove one obstacle from your workspace daily.
- Completion cue: a closing breath or brief walk to signal the brain the loop is done.
6) Coaching Prompts (self or team)
- Where is the task too big to finish today? What’s the smaller unit?
- What feedback am I avoiding? How can I get a low‑stakes sample in 24 hours?
- Which skill, if improved by 10%, collapses many problems?
Downloadable micro‑framework
Screenshot this three‑line loop and stick it near your screen:
- Plan: My smallest shippable unit today is ____.
- Do: Work 15–25 minutes. Ship version 0.5.
- Review: Keep: ____ · Change: ____